How to make wedding planning a joint effort

Traditionally brides tend to take over the wedding planning process, but with grooms playing more active roles of late, things are changing.

Yes, modern day grooms aren’t just saying “goodbye” to tradition with their daring wedding wear. They’re relishing wedding planning and sharing the ups and downs of the entire process with their partner from start to finish.

As the saying goes “a problem shared is a problem halved”, and this couldn’t be truer when making wedding planning more of a joint effort.

While sharing the wedding planning tasks equally can mean less stress for everyone involved, achieving a balance between both parties is essential. Here’s how to do just that.

Sort out the boring stuff

Defining your wedding budget may not be the most exciting part of wedding planning but it’s one of the most essential.

Sit down together to discuss your finances openly. Work out how much you can afford to dedicate to your wedding and how much you’ll be able to save in the coming weeks and months.

Your budget and saving goals will help you to plan a realistic wedding planning timeline, get (and stay) organised, and set a date that you’re both happy with.

There’s nothing wrong with stretching out the wedding planning process for a few months longer to ensure there’s more money in the pot to have your dream day.

Get on the same page

Both of you may have very different ideas about what makes the perfect wedding day. Make sure you kick-start wedding planning with a long discussion about what you both want from this very special occasion.

You can even go away separately to develop ideas, gather inspiration and create mood boards before sharing them and picking what you both love.

This separate and joint inspiration gathering will make the rest of the wedding planning process a lot simpler as you’ll be driven by a shared vision for your wedding day.

Invest in wedding insurance

Weddings are expensive, there’s no denying that, so why wouldn’t you take out wedding insurance to ensure ultimate peace of mind for you and your partner?

Before you start bringing that shared vision to life, purchase wedding insurance to protect your special day. It’ll reduce those stress levels and give you one less thing to worry about as you both plan a wedding day to remember.

Schedule some time out

Whether you’ve just started planning or you’re counting down those final weeks until your wedding, planning takes its toll.

According to a survey by Zola, 43% of couples said that wedding planning put a strain on their relationship. The same research found that planning can have a major impact on your health too:

“As if it weren’t bad enough to be stressed and aggravated for months on end, 86 per cent of those surveyed said they also suffered some sort of stress-induced symptoms, such as elevated anxiety, insomnia, mood swings, reduced sex drive, and headaches. There were also some pretty unpleasant cosmetic side effects, like hair loss and skin breakouts.”

Put your relationship and your health first by taking time out from wedding planning. Schedule regular date nights and ban all wedding talk (or at least most of it) to keep stress levels down and your relationship on track.

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Katie Davies

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