Engagement ring – should you fake it or buy the real thing?

Picking the perfect engagement ring has always been just as daunting as planning the proposal itself. Whilst you know your partner better than anyone, selecting this poignant piece of jewellery means a lot of pressure.

To avoid any embarrassing returns or even a flat ‘no’ at the proposal, an increasing number of couples are shopping for their engagement rings together after the proposal.

Temporary or ‘placeholder’ engagement rings are now bridging the gap, but should you fake it or buy the real thing?

Risk it!

Whilst proposals that involve gummy rings are as sweet as they come, the reality of proposing with a ring made from confectionery or plastic isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. By presenting your partner with the sparkler she deserves, you are saying so much more than “will you marry me?”.

Your ring selection will be testament to just how much you know and love your partner. Picking the perfect engagement ring is no walk in the park however, but it is possible to make the right selection.

Taking your time is the best advice we can give you when choosing an engagement ring for your soon-to-be fiancée. There are so many things you need to consider when making your selection and there’s lots to choose from.

Unbeknown to most, the size of the ‘rock’ isn’t the only factor, or even the most important. Consider the ring’s cut, clarity, carat, shape, and colour.

You don’t have to stick to the traditional diamond, coloured sapphires, and gemstones are popular choices for modern day brides. The band of the ring also needs your attention.

Here Brides offers some top tips for choosing the right metal for your partner’s engagement ring:

“Traditionally, engagement rings (and wedding bands, too) are made from yellow gold, white gold, silver, or platinum—although in recent years rose gold has emerged as a fresh, modern alternative.

While platinum may look quite similar to silver, platinum is significantly more expensive as it has a greater density (and is also more rare). Some metals scratch easier than others, so be sure to consider lifestyle—as well as budget, of course—before deciding how important of a factor metals are the final decision.”

Ethical engagement rings crafted using Fairtrade or recycled metal are great options for those looking to choose the perfect ring with the environment in mind.

Fake it!

There’s something very romantic about shopping for your engagement ring together. It not only means less shopping stress for you, which will be most welcome as you plan your unforgettable proposal. Shopping for an engagement ring with your fiancée after the proposal is hugely empowering.

Whilst traditionally it was the groom’s responsibility to pick their bride-to-be’s engagement ring, times have changed and your fiancée will no doubt have her own ideas about what makes the perfect ring for her.

By presenting her with a temporary engagement ring, she can make the perfect pick and discover a ring that she’s proud to wear for the rest of her days.

Ring shopping post-engagement is the ultimate bonding experience too. During your date shopping for your fiancée’s sparkler, you’ll learn so much more about her likes and dislikes. This information will no doubt come in handy at some stage during the wedding planning process!

You don’t have to propose empty handed however. There are a number of fabulous temporary engagement rings available. Check out these perfect placeholder engagement rings for inspiration.

Know someone who has recently got engaged? Mark the occasion with the perfect present by reading our engagement gifting guide of 2020.


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Katie Davies

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